Many students of tantra are confused about what an authentic tantra massage really is. This is understandable, since there are a lot of false operators out there hoping to pander to people’s baser instincts. They hope to sell a ‘erotic massage’ under this banner. It is no secret that tantra is a very marketable concept; couple it with the word ‘massage’ and you have a seemingly unbeatable sales proposition.
To begin with, one needs to clarify the difference between an erotic massage and a tantra massage. An erotic massage is designed to arouse the client sexually, and it often involves the manipulation of sexual organs. There is nothing more to it. The attraction of such a ‘service’ can be imagined. However, this is NOT tantra massage.
A tantric massage, on the other hand, primarily targets your overall health and wellbeing. The fact that sexual wellbeing is part of the overall health paradigm is factored in and catered to – but sexual gratification is not the main focus of a tantra massage. Rather, it is a method of using sensual touch in an ancient ritual that connects two human beings at all levels. It also allows the recipient’s mind to be free of the usual mundane processes that occupy it during a normal day, and to enter a spiritual plane.
When performed by an expert who has been trained by an experienced tantra teacher, tantric massage has definite physical benefits. The body is able to absorb and process oxygen more efficiently, and blood circulation improves dramatically. Importantly, the body is able to rid itself of the muscular tensions that are both the symptoms and causes of stress. As the tantra massage progresses, many portals that were previously shut begin to open. The portal of sexual intimacy is just one of them.
When a proper, ritual-based tantric massage is administered by one loving partner to another, it can bring them closer in many ways. In the first place, the recipient is not in ‘performance’ mode – he or she must relax and ‘receive’ pleasure. This is extremely therapeutic. If done consistently, being able to receive in such a manner can heal many rifts of spirit and psyche that impede love and intimacy.
By the same coin, the partner performing the tantra massage has the opportunity to transmit pleasurable feelings without expecting the same in return. In other words, he or she learns to give without reservations or expectations – and this ability is so integral to healthy intimate relationship. Read the rest of this entry »